Completing Him Challenge, Weeks 5, 6 + 7 :: I Am Not a Dropout

The past few weeks have just flow by for us. Summer is like that. One day you're whining about the snow, then crying about the heat, and then it's back to snow again. Just like that. Blink of an eye.

So while I have been participating in the Completing Him Challenge still in spirit, writing about it hasn't been something I've made the time for. So tonight I'm catching up on the past three weeks. And they're short ones.

Because I'm hot, and hormonal, and sleepy, and I have vowed to myself that I will have a hot date with my pillow tonight at 9 p.m.

Week 5 :: Make His Priorities, My Priorities

From the Women Living Well blog: "Make a list of 5 things you currently do and ask him to prioritize them for you of what is important to him. For example - a clean home, home cooked dinner, coupon clipping, service at church, having friends over for dinner, watching/doing sports with him, etc."

So I did. I mentioned 4 things (frankly the fifth would have been "have more me time" but I didn't really want to know where he'd rank that):

  1. Taking care of / feeding the baby
  2. Cooking meals
  3. Spending time with Sean
  4. Working

At first he said he'd rather me cook, then take care of the baby, then spend time with him, and then work.


Keep in mind the my paycheck is essential to the operation of this household. So I asked him to clarify.

"You'd rather me do all of these things more than work?"


"So you'd rather me call in for a personal day to cook you a meal, than go to work and get a paycheck."


"Well that's all well and good, but without my job, we would have no food for me to feed you."

It was a very sweet sentiment, now that I think about it. He actually would love for me to be able to stay home (and to all my coworkers reading this, OF COURSE I would rather work than do anything else).

{ shakes head no while pulling a Cheerio out of her bra }

But we both realize that my working is what's best for our family right now, and what God has specifically set our circumstances up to be for the foreseeable future.

When asked him to put the list into more of a realistic versus an idealistic list of priorities, work moved to the top and everything else shifted down.

I thought so.

And it's okay. Because for now, I agree.

Week 6 :: Make Him a Priority and Cook His Favorite Meals

Sean started Weight Watchers two weeks ago (which would have sabotaged all his weight-loss efforts), so instead of making his favorite meals, I spent lots of time making food that he would find delicious and enjoyable within his daily Points allotment. I carefully did math with each meal and snack and helped him to make wise, but yummy decisions. Like venison taco fajitas, shrimp pasta and grilled peaches.

And he loved it.

Week 7 :: Support His Vision for the Family

This week's topic made me mad because Sean and I don't make huge advance plans, so we don't really have a huge vision for the future except that we want our kids to grow up healthy and loving the Lord and we want our marriage to grow better all the time. There is no 1, 5 or 10 year plan. Sean asked, "Is that bad?" And I say no. No, it's not bad at all.

Because that's how this family rolls.

Now he did say in 10 years we'd have another kid. I argued that must be his 1 year plan, but he said no, in 10 years he'd like us to have 2 kids. I want 3. So he said, "Wait, are you asking for my vision or yours?"

Touché, hubs. Touché.

So there you have it, I am not a dropout. I am, however, 30 minutes ahead of my date with the pillow, so I think I'll go do something productive. Like play Angry Birds. Or dream about Sweetlix.

She's One, I'm Sappy, and You're Lucky

Weekend Rewind :: 7.25.2010

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